What I am learning as the years wind down for my parents


The Bible reminds us of this truth in Job 14:5... A person's days are determined; you have decreed the number of his months and have set limits he can not exceed.

 As I watch this season nearing the end for my parents, and the passing of my dad, it has had a great impact on my life. 

 These are some of the ways it is shaping my heart and life.

 * I am eternally grateful for each day I have shared with them... 
* I realize that the most important things in life are relationships...
* I am grateful that my parents have always said "I love you" whenever we parted ways.
* I am more able to be empathetic and sympathetic to those that have lost loved ones.
* I am reaping the benefits of "honoring my parents" through the years.
* I find comfort in the promises of heaven in a renewed way.
* I treat each visit with them as if it could be our last.
* I am more patient and willing to listen better when things are repeated in conversation.
* I am reminded of all the ways they have sacrificially given to me and my own family.
* I glean the wisdom they still speak to me in conversation.
* I hold my own family tighter and closer.
And this is what I would say to others, as a result of what I am learning.

 * Tell your parents you love them each time you are with them
* Honor your parents by caring for them and obeying them in the LORD.
* Pray with your parents and for them.
* Forgive them and do not hold grudges.
* Treat each visit as if it were your last.
* Remind them of all the ways they have blessed your life.
* Never speak despairingly about them to others.
* Don't make fun of them

 And for me personally...

 * I am doing my best to carry on their legacy of love and generosity.
* Tears come at the most unknown times
* I cherish each day with my family in fresh way
* I long for more to know Jesus so they can have the promises I have in him.
* God is my source of strength.
* I love watching my children love on them 
* I am grateful that my wife is by my side through this time.
* I cherish my brothers and sisters in renewed way as we navigate through this together.
* I am a better husband, Father, Brother, and Pastor!

Comments

  1. MarlaMaeJanuary 5, 2017 at 7:52 AM

    There is no emoticon to express the feelings this post has brought on. Suffice it to say, I am on this journey with my Dad, and I, too, am grateful for each day we have together. Praying for you and your family, Jim...we love you guys so much...

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  2. UnknownJanuary 5, 2017 at 9:55 AM

    I could not have said it better Jimmy. Just.beautiful. Love you.

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  3. Kimberly LeasureJanuary 5, 2017 at 11:01 PM

    Jimmy, You expressed some great thoughts about these last years with our parents. It's almost unbelievable how fast events took place in our family, back to back. I know you hurt at times, deeply. I understand that part of you well. Always know that I pray for you Jimmy and your family and I'm very grateful for the times we 5 share together, even more. I love you Jimmy Brown and our house is always open to you all.
    It's a bit more comfortjng knowing we all have experienced great losses last year. Carry On my brother ~ łłł

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